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As you might assume from my content on this site, I carry a lot of labels. Some are less well-known than others, and some carry inaccurate connotations. Some I am constantly working for greater awareness of, and others I keep quieter about. These labels have been immensely helpful for me, whether they are as specific…
Today, Sarah Bessey asked her readers on her Substack about all the losses that come with deconstruction/faith evolution. It made me think of a related, often simultaneous loss when that deconstruction is part of coming out as queer: There’s something I tell queer people when they come out and lose so much (or publicly identify…
We say Your theology leads to harm You say That’s tough love for rebels We say Your politics lead to death You say Words can’t hurt We say stop killing us You say Stop being dramatic We grieve at headlines We cry in news photos We raise the alarm And violence still comes We say…
I’m honored to introduce you to my friend and former coworker Bekah McNeel. Bekah is an author, journalist, and podcaster (check out our episode together here!) who works tirelessly for those on the margins to have their voices heard and to bring about real change through the power of storytelling. I asked her if she…
do you ever dream about them the teachers, the doctors, the counselors the psych professor who saw a lot of promise in you the professionals who didn’t see it do you ever shout at them in your sleep i was just a kid and you were the expert on the tower with training and power…
This is a silly little poem about Twitter, but I really do hope we can recapture the joy and belonging and welcome this Ace Awareness Week in the midst of all the creepy, scary, and ghoulish opinions on the internet. Hope you find all treats and no tricks this year! Smell it approaching. It’s coming…
I was asked about ace and allo marriages, and I didn’t have any resources about marriage/partnership and asexuality, especially when one of those partners is allo. Aces and their allo partners on Twitter were eager to help and share what they have learned. We all hope these stories and links can strengthen ace/allo marriages and…
Content warning for child abuse story. Start at 3:24 if this is a trigger for you First, it is a great feeling to be able to understand and process every word from a speaker without needing the captions. That almost never happens. I feel like I actually processed every word! Aside from speaking skills, this…
I pray you find a doctor with undying curiosity I pray you find empathy in a nurse’s needle I pray you find a treatment that works
She describes herself as “an ill-fitting Christian. A square peg trying to fit into a round hole, each of the angles representing the diverse religious traditions that shaped my understanding of the Divine.”
What is it costing us when we have to hide entire parts of who we are in our churches, homes, families, friendships, workplaces, and communities because the standard of goodness is a different shape than the shape we occupy?
Yes, as our friend, comforter, creator, divine parent, provider, protector, lover, healer, Lord, and shepherd… God cares about our sexuality and bodies. Buckle up.
Today, there is much discussion on embodiment, what it means to show up in a space as your full self, and to be present in your body wherever you are. The topic du jour, in particular, is church attendance. Can we experience the “real” church online?
I’m primarily focusing my work on progressive Christianity and the queer church because that’s where I’m most needed and fit best, but others have blazed a trail before I got here and I’m not alone now.
Homesickness is a funny kind of illness. It sort of hurts all over. In your throat when someone asks the wrong question at the wrong time. In your lungs when a reminder of what you’ve lost takes your breath away. In your core when there’s the gut punch of knowing what you long for may…
a fresh start, To begin, That’s what we need. To tear it all down and click Refresh.
By Rev Naomi Miller, Church of the Apostles, Guelph. Thank you, Rev. Miller, for letting me share this here! O God, You know me by my name. You know <name> by <pronoun> name. Let the words I use when I speak to <name> and about <pronoun> show my love for <pronoun>.
No amount of busyness or responsibility cures clinical depression, anxiety disorders, or neurodivergence.
Asexuality is not the same as celibacy. Lots of asexual people do have sex. Asexuality is about attraction, not behavior. I am also celibate. I consider this a calling in the sense that God made me sex-averse intentionally and for a reason. Not all asexual people are sex-averse.
Is there an affirming way to read the Bible? What contributions and revelations and corrections can queer theology offer the church? What do I say to my church or pastor or neighbors who think queer affirmation is unbiblical? And can I love Jesus, the Bible, the church, and my queer self, friends, family, or neighbors?
A few podcasts around queerness, queer faith, and aromanticism and asexuality. For my own podcast appearances, see Podcasts. Queer – general QueeryMaking Gay History Queer Christian Q TheologyQueerologyLavender Mafia (*nsfw)A Tiny RevolutionRefuge RadioOur Bible has a large list of affirming podcasts here Search for these on your favorite podcast-listening platform!
Welcome, welcome to the wandering I was once welcomed And here you are too
She needs him Like she needs air He needs her Like water But I breathe I drink, I gasp I drown All on my own
I take aim Correct form Exhale Release The word hangs In the air A whisper A whisper
I had the great privilege of joining my friend Kelly Wolfe on her blog, Let It Matter, this week discussing Mary Magdalene. We have a video of our conversation on her blog as well as a transcript for you to read. We discuss the way she’s been treated by church history, biblical interpretation, how fandom…
I will not be quiet Call me threat, call me fire Let’s burn it down Call me hurricane
I don’t know if you can see it But I am out here
Resources to learn more about aromanticism and asexuality.
A link list of resources, events, communities, blogs, newsletters, church finders, and more for queer Christian life.
I mostly write about asexuality and being a queer Christian, but those aren’t the hardest challenges I’ve encountered in my faith. Being both queer and Christian has been difficult, but it has also shown me a community of love, belonging, joy, and all the fruits of the Spirit. My hardest challenge to my faith was recovering from…
Alright it’s time to talk about… aromanticism! I haven’t spent as much time on this as I have on asexuality, so it’s time to answer some questions and bust some myths. Similar to how asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction, aromanticism is a lack of romantic attraction. I’m both aromantic and asexual, aro ace…
I am not the type to get emotional but it hurts when you say all humans were created for sex that romance is the purpose for us being thrust upon this forsaken Earth
I’m rare. And not in a good, let’s-celebrate-diversity way. In a way that ends up being called things, like, well… ice queen.
All of my life, I’ve been told I’m too different. That I can’t expect others to understand. Most kids don’t talk like I do. Most kids don’t feel the passion I feel. Most kids wouldn’t think to fear all I fear.
Sometimes a person Is not just a person But a hope A path A lantern A voice
Tomorrow we will all get up And go about our days like normal Tomorrow the sun will shine And spring will once again attempt To show us hope and life. I believe. Lord, help my unbelief.
The nice thing about socks is that they always have a mate You know when one is lost because it was made for another Two by two, pairs, not ever alone, folded together But life lived out is never that simple
I took off the purity ring because there was nothing to wait for. But then I learned of another ring. A subtle way for asexual people to recognize each other in public. One not unlike the youth group legend of the early church’s icthus fish, now that I think about it.
I decided my purity ring was a lie. I wasn’t waiting for anything. There was nothing to wait for.
Most days I am wary I have seen the machine I know the powers that pull A gold pulpit’s fragile strings
This is a new place. One I have created for a new time. I hope it is a place of healing for you. When you feel unseen, you can come here. When you feel alone, you can find community. And maybe say some “me too”s. If it’s not for you, that’s okay. You don’t need…
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